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Friday, November 10, 2006

"Twenty when it should be ten, and ten when it should be five..."

Recently, while working in my office, I received an e-mail from my Sainted Fiancee. In this e-mail she forwarded me a piece of spam that she had received for reasons that constantly elude us both. The spam was, in essence, an advertisement for a dating website where interested men can meet women of unusually large stature. So, in other words, if you're in to "fat chicks," this site is for you. Needless to say they refer to their target "product" as "Big, Beautiful Women," but I think we can all read through the euphemism. This spam also included the graphics below:

And all I can say is finally! Finally, someone is trying to provide a useful service for those poor women who just cannot control their eating, who are just gigantic, and need a very special kind of man to love them. You know... women like that one in the picture. I mean, look at her! She's huge! Have you ever seen shoulders like that? Just... wow. Obviously she just can't say no to chocolate cake- I mean, hell, they couldn't even get it away from her long enough to take the picture!

Can you imagine the sort of heartbreak that poor girl must experience every single day? How hard must it be for her to leave the house knowing that men are lusting after women with a more realistic body weight? And if that wasn't enough, there are the movies, which prominently feature women of average proportions:

Then there is advertising, which uses models who closely resemble the norm in order to sell products:

Even television actresses are notorious for their realistic proportions:

How can these enormous fatties possibly hope to find love when they are surrounded by realistic depictions of real women? It just breaks your heart.

And then you realize that the "big, beautiful woman" in the ad looks pretty normal. That actresses and models are bizarrely, unhealthily skinny, and that the only reason we have a hard time realizing that is because we spend so much time watching people who are so utterly, completely, and thouroughly unrealistic.

As if yesterday weren't enough to make us despair, we have this new and horrifying example of misperceptions. As much as we talk about social change occurring slowly, we should not miss that sometimes it's quick. The vision of what women should be a few decades ago is not the same as today. And we should all wonder what that vision will be telling our sons and daughters a few decades from now:

That they're huge when we should say fat, and fat when we should say normal. Normal when we should say skinny, and skinny when they're barely alive.


Anonymous Anonymous said...

Marilyn Monroe was a size 12, and men in psych tests don't prefer the super skinny women to "normal" sized women. It puts everything into such a different perspective when you think about it like this. My response to the spam is, "Yes, apparently I am a big beautiful woman, and proud of it to boot!!!" - D's SF

Friday, November 10, 2006 3:38:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You look Great!!! dating tips!!

Saturday, November 11, 2006 3:54:00 AM  
Blogger Drek said...

You know... that kind of comment spam is funny and horrifying in roughly equal measure.

Saturday, November 11, 2006 10:54:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think it's interesting, too, that there seems to be a cultural phenomenon going on with the weight issue. If you look at magazines directed towards a predominantly male, African-American audience, the women featured are far more normal looking. They are busty and healthy and have all the right curves. Come to that, what has happened, white guys? Why all the emphasis on girls who look like 12-year-old boys? Don't you like boobies any more? :(

Tuesday, November 14, 2006 7:11:00 AM  
Blogger Drek said...

Susan, that's an interesting point about racial differences in this area. My concern is more with unhealthily unrealistic views, which could extend to a number of populations, but the variation in desirable image is indeed interesting.

Tuesday, November 14, 2006 10:06:00 AM  
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Friday, February 09, 2007 4:40:00 AM  

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